Tobi O.

I have been thinking about opportunity recently; how much ‘fate’ and available opportunities contributes to who we eventually become, and our own part to play.  My mum sent me a video about opportunity, and its role in our lives. In it, there was a race on a spacey grassy field, which I think signified life; and there was a referee. As the race was about to start, the referee began making statements, and if you answered positively to any of those statements, you were asked to take 2 steps forward. He began, “take 2 steps forward if both of your parents are still married.” “If you had parents who were able to provide you with an education, take 2 steps forward.” “Take 2 steps forward if you never had to worry where your next meal was gonna come from.” “Take 2 steps forward if you’ve never had to assist your parents with paying the bills.” There were a couple other statements, and after he was done, the line appeared raggedy. There were people up front, people at the middle, people a...

I have spent 3 weeks away from school now, and I can say my break has been going well(ish?). I’ve been spending my very long days watching as many films, documentaries as I can manage, and reading the books I’ve always wanted to read. I got to read ‘becoming’, because of a Michelle Obama documentary series that I watched, ‘honey and spice’ because I thought I needed to read more Nigerian fiction books, and another non-fiction book that I just read every night, a habit that I have developed. I have also been trying to keep up on social media and I have been using twitter actively lately. I love instagram too, but I haven’t been using it as much as I used to. When I first finished my exams and was planning my break, this is not how I meant for it to be. I thought I was going to learn a skill, and do something that just involved me interacting with people. Something different and fun. That’s different because typically, my breaks involve staying at home alone all day. Every other person g...

I became a salesman for a week, and I had so much fun! I’m not a natural salesperson type who gets along easily and motivates (is that the word?) people to buy stuff, so when I first started (in 100L), I failed. Horribly. I started selling in 100L after I decided I wanted to start making money.  I thought of a business idea that I thought was nice, and settled on fans. So I kick-started, my parents were supportive, I did a promotional video, sent it to class group, and low-and-behold, after the whole hullabaloo I sold only 1 fan. 1!  I just gave up.  2 year later, this year, I was telling my mum and siblings about how I hadn’t finished selling off all those fans. My sister, who I like to call a veteran business woman because of how much into business she is, laughed.  She and my mum said that the weather was pretty hot and fans were in high demand so how had I not sold them? I was just looking. Then my sister told me about how everyone in her school had been asking h...

I was going through my YouTube downloads and I saw a couple of videos that I used to prepare for a school debate in 2022; so I decided to do a blog on my experience at the debate. Here it is  ✨ My first experience debating was in JS1. I joined the debate, poetry, and writing club of my school mainly because I thought it was cool.  The debate topics we had were rather peripheral, for example: “doctors vs farmers: who contributes more to the society?”.  In those debates, there was pretty much no style as to who spoke first or next, it was all rather randomized. So whenever it was my turn to speak, all points would have been taken by the previous speakers and I would be left blank  😅 . I left the club in JS2 to join another ‘interesting’ club. Last year, I saw an email inviting students to participate in a school debate competition.  I was a little bored at that time and I needed something exciting to lay my hands on, so I said ‘why not try out?’ I signed up, and,...

“What if that happens?”, “What if I don’t make it?”, “Would my efforts be in vain?”, what would people think?”   I struggle with these questions when I’m about doing something new, when I’m venturing into new territory, or when I’m about to do something to chase a dream. As the questions crawl through my mind, I begin to wonder what to do and I start to search for answers. If I don’t  find an answer, I close up whatever it is that I am doing and go do things that bring me some level of certainty. There goes the dream. There goes that goal. Once in a while though, I do it either ways, when I think what I need to do is far more important/more impactful than the answers my mind seeks.   If things eventually turn out fine, I start thinking, I need to do this more. I need to shut out that constant need for answers and certainty; i f they don’t, the voices in my head that seek certainty become stronger. Because ambition, especially lofty ones,  push us to places we’ve...

calm down - Rema. I love the intro beats of this song so much …  skip As I write this, I’m in the library, I’m listening to this song and jamming. I’m in the library writing this and I’m trying to clear my head for creativity.  Breathe in… breathe out. Here we go! Right now, it’s semi confirmed that my MB is March. We haven’t even reached half of Biochemistry’s scheme of work, or Genetics, or Neuroanatomy, or physiology. Nawa 🫠😂 Random fact: over the past week or so, I’ve been scared about how much time I spend social media especially as my exams are so dancing closer. I think twice about checking my screen time, because of the number that I’ll see 😅. To solve this, I was recently reading Atomic habits by James Clear. He talked about how when he was writing the book and he wanted to eliminate distraction, at the beginning of every week he and his personal assistant would change each other’s social media passwords. His personal assistant would change his social media passwor...